I don't usually write about relationship crap, but I can't sleep tonight and came across this article about how
guys play games.
My simple rules of dating:
1. If you like someone, tell them.
2. If you want to talk to someone, call them.
3. If they do something that pisses you off, let them know. Just don't be a bitch about it.
4. If you don't like them, be up front. Honesty Rocks.
(I'm no pro by any means, but being straight forward seems to be the best approach in any relationship... from training your dog to co-workers to intimate relationships even to speaking with your parents)
Most of the examples of games in the article are of "guy" being a total d-bag, and "girl" in turn pining for every last bit of his attention.
This is what I have seen happen over and over with my female friends, guy friends that do it to women they like, and sometimes in my own experience-
So you like a girl, but flirt with other girls in front of her, act like a d-bag, or just act like you don't like her ... whatev. This may seem like it works. Once you finally give a girl some time, she is all over you and is sucking up every last bit of attention she can get from you. You've made her insecure, and she is probably trying to do everything she can to make you like her and want to spend time with her.
Now you've made her seem crazy, desperate, clingy, and ultimately unattractive. You're wondering, 'What happened to this really cool chick? When did she go bonkers?'. Instead of looking back at what you may have done to make her act this way, you will more than likely blame it on the girl. If you wouldn't have played hard to get in this way (you CAN play hard to get without being an ass...) and brought out one of her worst sides, you'd probably still be into her. However, if you're just trying to get laid- this will probably work pretty well with most women.
I realize women play games too. I've done it, and it's never once worked out in my favor.
So boys and girls, next time you like someone, tell them (not 10x a day). Call them if you want to talk (also, not 10x a day... don't look desperate). If they do something to upset you, bring it up and get over it. If they do it again- toss em'. If you decide you do not want to see them anymore, get some balls and say something, nicely. IMO, the worst thing a girl or guy can do is drag someone along when they have no intentions of taking the relationship any further.
Like I said, Honesty Rocks.
End Soapbox.
L McP